“Don’t tell your problems to people: eighty percent don’t care, and the other twenty percent are glad you have them.”
– Lou Holtz
We humans are poor critics of someone’s true personality and we are quick to judge someone based on their outer demeanour, instead of their true selves. It is only so hard to differentiate one from the other because there is only a fine line between being truly nice and fake magnanimity. Differentiating the genuine souls from the pretentious ones is pretty hard and we often end up being close to people who don’t truly care about you or your issues. Fake people have this kind of air around them that makes them appear to be genuine and no one can really tell the difference!
Identifying and keeping the genuine people, the people who seriously care about your well-being is essential for a happy life. Be it in your business, educational life, friendships and life in general, keeping the genuine souls closer to you will save you from a lot of pain and trouble. So, as I was repeatedly reiterating the fact that fake people are harder to differentiate from the genuine ones, how can you go about differentiating between the same? There are some striking characteristics of genuine people which make them easily stand out from the fake ones, whose candour towards you or others is not genuine.
7 Striking Characteristics of Genuine people
Here are 7 of the striking characteristics of genuine people, so that you don’t fall into the trap of the fake people. Fake people possess a candour of the ‘true good to be true’ stature and it is necessary that you steer away from such people for a peaceful mind. Below are the 7 striking characteristics of genuine people so that you can identify and keep these people close to your lives.
They Speak their minds out
These are the kind of people who go on and say things that need to be said. Even it if costs them a relationship or a serious business. Genuine people would never sugarcoat the reality for the sake of pleasing everyone around themselves. These people generally take the time to form their opinions and to better understand their perspective on situations and people. These are the ones who are not quick to make heavy criticisms about others without getting a deeper look at the situation. Although once formed an opinion or landed upon an insight, these people never shy away from making others know of the same.
Also, these people are extremely at ease even while they are laying down the harsh reality to others. Also, the genuine people possess the ability to take a joke on themselves and entertain it when no offense was intended, given that they don’t take themselves too seriously. Genuine people objectify themselves as the same indiscriminate way that they do with other people or situations. This often leads them to gain genuine and meaningful insights into the people and the situations around themselves.
They prefer deep conversations over gossips and small talk
A very humanly trait of people is that we engage on some kind of gossip on a daily basis. They have become such an essential part of our existence that it is hard to expect otherwise from someone. Genuine people have zero tolerance for such gossips and make sure that they are not playing a part in such small talk. Instead, genuine people prefer to have a deep and meaningful conversation with the people around them. You can easily identify a genuine person when you can have a meaningful conversation with them, without them feeling an urge to interrupt with their own agendas.
These people have a thing for stories and will always welcome an interesting thought or idea from your end and, without interrupting you while doing so. These are the kind of people who will engage with you in some kind of deep philosophical conversations. Genuine people love and care to learn about you, your story and what shaped it to be the way you are right now. Intense and Intellectually-stimulating talks about life in general, purpose, the human race and society are some examples of talks you would usually engage with genuine people.
They possess a good balance of self-esteem
Quantifying a person’s self-esteem is definitely something not within the capacity of humans, but there are a few key identifiers for the same. A narcissistic person is the one who usually possesses an air of pride, negligence, and highest self-esteem about themselves. People with low self-esteem are anxiously unsure about themselves and always feel needy of love and attention as if being devoured of it. There’s a sweet spot that genuine people embrace with grace and this perfect balance in self-esteem makes them who they are.
A person with stable self-esteem is pretty rare these days and this very quality makes the genuine people able to handle criticisms, take responsibility of their failures and they embrace their imperfections with grace. Genuine people are wary of their shortcomings and have an ability to take in both positive and negative feedback about themselves or their work. These are the kind of people who actively acknowledge aspects of their shortcomings and constantly work on improving upon their weaknesses.
They accept and take full responsibility of their mistakes
The quality of a person with well-balanced self-esteem are the ones who take full responsibility of any kind of mess they end up creating. These people are the ones who are the last ones to put the blame on people around them. Loathing and always looking forward to putting their outcomes onto the shoulders of people around them is the least you can expect off a genuine person.
It is very hard to expect people to truly own their feelings and opinions on people and situations. Confronting the bad in oneself is a pretty daunting task and it takes an authentic character to face with the reality and to execute change. Genuine people embrace themselves and their individuality and this very factor makes them more appreciative of people around them and less likely to put the blame onto others.
They don’t go around trying to please everybody
Again, another factor of the highly genuine people is that they don’t feel a need for acceptance from people around them. Fake people are not true to themselves given that they get too busy trying to please everyone else in the process. Since genuine people are not always trying to please everyone, you usually don’t find them seeking people’s attention or with an urge to be liked.
Although these people are quick to give out compliments to people who they think are deserving of it, genuine people don’t do so just for the sake of pleasing everyone around. Authentic people share their thoughts and opinions with the people without considering the possibility of it making them more hated. Genuine people are fine if you like them and likewise fine if you dislike them.
They listen to their inner selves
The world we currently live in very noisy and all we are surrounded with most of the time is advice and opinions on things and situations. While it is very easy to get lost in such immense outcries of people, the authentic people have developed an ability to listen to their inner selves and go with their gut feelings. Genuine people don’t pursue a career or dream, just because someone else is performing exceptionally good at it.
Because genuine people are well aware of themselves, this level of self-awareness helps them to be in tune with their inner voice. Very wary of their own shortcomings and strengths, genuine people follow their gut instincts and are very comfortable with who they are. We all do something, behave some way and feel some way primarily because of our unique principles and beliefs that we live by. It is in the better understanding of their own principles which help genuine people to ignore the crowd and to follow their heart.
They practice what they preach
Although it could be hard to tell the difference between genuine and fake people, you can easily tell the difference by this very factor. It is very often that we hear opinions and advice from people on our situations when they haven’t been in our shoes. What’s even worse is the people who don’t stand by their own values or their beliefs. Authentic people own their opinions and advice and truly mean when they speak something.
Genuine people sincerely practice what they preach and they preach what they practice. These people are comfortable sharing their true self with people around themselves and do not hesitate to give away genuine opinions and advice to others. It is these people you need to keep away from since their self-righteous nature would not lead to any better situation for you.
So, what do you think about differentiating genuine people from fake ones? Shout out your thoughts and comments below on how you go about identifying and keeping close to the genuine people you need the most in your lives?